Obstetric Violence: How it Made Me a Better Doula & Educator.
I’ve planned to tell my birth story for two and a half years and for the first time today I truly feel ready. There were times I thought I’d never publicly share the details of my birth because I didn’t want my truth to negatively effect my relationship with medical professionals, my network, my family, my students and clients. There are people close to me that have only heard the truth of my birth in the last couple weeks and still some friends & family who won’t know the full story until they read this blog. I wrote a version of this story that shares every detail and it is a novel! So I decided to get it down to something readable and honest. I realize this short version will leave a lot of questions and I’m prepared for that.
Reasons I’m Sharing My Birth Story.
For my own healing. I’m doing some deep work to prepare myself for a possible 2nd birth in the future and being able to get my story out has helped with that healing. Since I got it on paper all I could think about was sharing it and sending it out to the universe and saying, “This is my truth”. This is how a violent attack, loss of autonomy and lack of consent hurt me. This is how it made me grow. Now I’m moving on and planning a birth without violence.
For other victims of Obstetric Violence. A week after my birth my midwife sent me a blog from a birth worker in another state who had experienced 2 traumatic births. Her words helped get me through the first months of my daughter’s life. I want my story to be that for someone. Even just one person and it will be worth sharing.
To start a conversation. I don’t often hear conversations about obstetric violence that are building bridges. My trauma will be used as a means to create lines of communication, understanding and change. I’ve waited long enough, healed enough and had guidance to share my story without hysteria, hate and judgment. Instead I share my story to say, “Not all nurses and Doctors are this way. Let’s create relationships that relieve tension and protect the mothers we serve”.
So you can have a personal look into what drives me, why I created the My Sunshine Birth Services Networkand why I’m so fiercely dedicated to passing legislation that will improve maternity care and hospital transfer protocol.
Lastly my students and clients ask me all the time to tell them my birth story. This story is on my website now under the About Me section so I can lead them there and keep the conversations in class and prenatal from becoming about me. Because in the end my birth story matters, but when I’m your educator or Doula it is about YOU!
Last month Mary Duke LCCE was on WBKO Midday Live and this segment was easily her favorite spot so far on WBKO Midday Live. Read about her experience and how she chose one topic to share with all expectant parents.
The normal, natural process of labor and birth, and health-care practices that
The rights of childbearing woman
Anatomy and Physiology of Labor
Changes during late pregnancy and the stages of labor
The important role that pain plays in labor and a wide variety of coping strategies for managing it
The importance of labor support (Doula/Partner)
Partner’s role in labor, breastfeeding and postpartum care
Movement and positioning during labor and birth
Medical interventions and their indications, risks and alternatives
Cesarean awareness and how to plan for a gentle cesarean
How to communicate with your healthcare provider
Developing a birth plan
Postpartum expectations and Self Care
Baby Blues & Postpartum Depression
Birth Control options and Natural Family Planning (Fertility Awareness)
Car Seat Safety
Local resources to support you during and after pregnancy
Keep in mind that there are many sub-topics beneath these topics and the knowledge you’ll gain from a comprehensive childbirth education course is immense. Consider a minimum 12 hour childbirth education course under an educator certified by a reputable agency when you are planning your birth. Want to learn more about education and support options in Southern KY then come to our monthly Meet The Doulas or email firstname.lastname@example.org for details.
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Check out the video below of my appearance today on WBKO Midday Live with Laura Rogers. We were a little rushed at the end of the show and didn’t get to talk as much as we’d like. I had hoped to mention the Babywearers of Bowling Green when we talked baby carriers, but I was not able to. Here is the link to their website and you can also find them on Facebook.
We also wanted to talk about the push present promotion. This is what we are offering.
Purchase a spot in full for any 2016 8 week Lamaze Childbirth Education Course at The Spot by Mother’s Day (May 8th) and get a Mother’s Day Card redeemable for the following push presents ($140 value).
A big thanks to WBKO and the beautiful Laura Rogers for having me on WBKO AM Kentucky this morning. It was a much different experience than midday. It was very quiet in the studio early in the morning and less than half the time to talk during my segment. Two and a half minutes can really fly by, but Laura did her job with ease guiding me through the segment. I continue to be impressed with the kindness and consideration all of the WBKO staff shows me.
I hope you all enjoy this segment, and I hope you’ll see more of My Sunshine Birth Services on WBKO.
Mary Duke LCCE, owner operator of My Sunshine Birth services made her first WBKO Midday appearance. Check out the video below where she discusses practical gifts for expectant parents and the services offered by My Sunshine Birth Services and the My Sunshine Network.
Thank you for tuning in today and watching my segment on WBKO’s Midday Live where I discussed practical gifts for expectant Parents. As I discussed on the show this list was created through suggestions of my clients, social media followers and network birth professionals. Here is the detailed list that includes items not seen on TV today and how to find the items mentioned.
“…break tradition and get practical gifts that will make birth and postpartum a positive experience for the whole family.”
The My Sunshine Birth Doulas have been busy this past week with training, workshops, and networking. I’ll be doing a series of blog entries to let you know about all the adventures we’ve been on. Here is our first stop Nashville’s New Freestanding Birth Center.
First some of us went to the new Baby+Co Boutique Birth Center in Nashville TN to meet with the ladies behind the scenes, tour the facilities and learn about their practices.